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Aziz Ansari Is Guilty. Of Not Being a Mind Reader.
They went back to his TriBeCa apartment, and it quickly got sexual:
Grace complimented Ansari’s kitchen countertops. The actor then made a move, asking her to sit on the counter.
She got there and somehow was on a counter top in no time when he first started to kiss her
Within moments, he was kissing her. “In a second, his hand was on my breast.”
Most guys when necking will get a feel of the tits
Then he was undressing her, then she undressed him
It is obvious in her own words she did not resist him taking her clothes off
She remembers feeling uncomfortable at how quickly things escalated.
She got naked too fast. She was not drunk they left half a bottle of wine at the restaurant.
When Ansari told her he was going to grab a condom within minutes of their first kiss,
He was already fucking her in his mind
Grace voiced her hesitation explicitly. “I said something like, ‘Whoa, let’s relax for a sec, let’s chill.’
He was being considerate making sure he has a condom ready, she was thinking I need more foreplay
She says he then resumed kissing her, briefly performed oral sex on her, and asked her to do the same thing to him. She did, but not for long. Did he smell of Curry
Maybe she wants oral sex to warm up fine
“It was really quick. Everything was pretty much touched and done within ten minutes of hooking up, except for actual sex.”
So they had oral sex and necked for ten minutes.
She went on to describe how he repeatedly put his hands in her mouth and vagina, and kept putting her hand on his penis.
Well he was hot and she was not and he was wetting his fingers for her.
Ansari also physically pulled her hand towards his penis multiple times throughout the night, from the time he first kissed her on the counter top onward. “He probably moved my hand to his dick five to seven times,” she said. “He really kept doing it after I moved it away.”
Well miss he is playing with your pussy play with his dick
Grace said she used “verbal and non-verbal cues to indicate how uncomfortable and distressed she was,” but also described that as mostly “pulling away and mumbling,” which she acknowledges he may not have understood.
No I don’t want to play with your dick under her breath
Whether Ansari didn’t notice Grace’s reticence or knowingly ignored it is impossible for her to say. “I know I was physically giving off cues that I wasn’t interested. I don’t think that was noticed at all, or if it was, it was ignored.”
She closed her legs on his fingers in her pussy as a clue that she is not interested.He thought she was enjoying it
Eventually, Ansari wanted sex, and asked her several times, “Where do you want me to fuck you?” — which she found “tough to answer” because she “didn’t want to fuck him at all.”
After oral sex and him playing with her pussy for over an hour well maybe she wanted to do it on the counter on the floor or in bed not the couch he had to ask. She did not say I donot want to fuck you.
She excused herself, spent a few minutes in the bathroom, and then came out and told him she didn’t want to have sex. Here’s what happened next, according to Grace:
Then she went back to Ansari. He asked her if she was okay. “I said I don’t want to feel forced because then I’ll hate you, and I’d rather not hate you,” she said.
I liked what you did so far I had my fun and donot want to fuck I doubt you can give me an orgasm plus there is no washer in your bathroom or a Bidet
She told babe that at first, she was happy with how he reacted. “He said, ‘Oh, of course, it’s only fun if we’re both having fun.’
Ok you donot want to fuck that is fine
The response was technically very sweet and acknowledging the fact that I was very uncomfortable. Verbally, in that moment, he acknowledged that I needed to take it slow. Then he said, ‘Let’s just chill over here on the couch.’”
This moment is particularly significant for Grace, because she thought that would be the end of the sexual encounter — her remark about not wanting to feel “forced” had added a verbal component to the cues she was trying to give him about her discomfort. When she sat down on the floor naked next to Ansari, who sat on the couch, she thought he might rub her back, or play with her hair — something to calm her down. He thought she wanted to give him a blow job because she is not going to fuck him
She still needed more foreplay
Ansari instructed her to turn around. “He sat back and pointed to his (erect) penis and motioned for me to go down on him. And I did. I think I just felt really pressured. It was literally the most unexpected thing I thought would happen at that moment because I told him I was uncomfortable.”
well I am uncomfortable too with an erection for the past two hours well thanks for the blow job.
“‘How about we just chill, but this time with our clothes on?’
I want to go home
I will call you an Uber and I will pay for it.
If you are hanging out naked with a man, it’s safe to assume he is going to try to have sex with you.
If the inability to choose a pinot noir over a pinot grigio offends you, you can leave right then and there.
That is petty
If you don’t like the way your date hustles through paying the check, you can say, “I’ve had a lovely evening and I’m going home now.”
If you go home with him and discover he’s a terrible kisser, say “I’m out.”
If his dick is too small it is easier on your jaws. But you can leave if you thought you cannot enjoy it.
If you start to hook up and don’t like the way he smells or the way he talks (or doesn’t talk), end it.
If you did not like his smell you could have taken a shower you were both already naked.
Did he force you to open your mouth to put his fingers in it or you were miss dry pussy and he was being nice.
If he pressures you to do something you don’t want to do, use a four-letter word, stand up on your two legs and walk out his door.
If he forces you to open your mouth to suck him you could have left or kept your sucking mouth shut
There is a useful term for what Grace experienced on her night with Mr. Ansari. It’s called “bad sex.” It sucks.Or oh My god I gave two blow jobs to a rag head and almost fucked him.I cannot say that to the girls even if he is famous.
This one by the novelist and feminist icon Margaret Atwood. “My fundamental position is that women are human beings,” she writes. “Nor do I believe that women are children, incapable of agency or of making moral decisions. If they were, we’re back to the 19th century, and women should not own property, have credit cards, have access to higher education, control their own reproduction or vote. There are powerful groups in North America pushing this agenda, but they are not usually considered feminists.”